Posted: 7/17/07 8:47 PM
i.jenna
I just started having sex with my boyfriend and for some reason he can't get hard. I try not to say anything about it because I don't want to embaress him, but frankly, I'm the one who's embarressed. I ask him what's wrong and he says nothing. He comes up with weird reasons like "I think you worked me out", or "You're like my kryptonite". What's with him? Is he nervous? Scared?
Posted: 4/24/10 10:23 AM
Guest
I'm in a similar situation, it's just nerves i think, and as was mentioned earlier, the thought of it happening again makes it worse, i'm going to try and make it so i;m the initiating it when i know he's up for it, i think with him sometimes it's because he's worried he's pushing me into it and that puts him off. Try not to let it get to you, it's probably affecting him much worse, just don't rush it, at the end of the day a relationship shouldn't revolve around sex, and you can get please in many other ways ;p
Posted: 2/22/11 11:04 PM
Guest
I have the same problem with my boyfreind and I feel so crap all the time and I feel so unatrctive because of it, I cant cope so think we may split up over it .
March 8, 2011
August 2, 2008
life is made extremely difficult for men if you don't pretend sexual need for women
Just for a little while when I started getting those sexual vibes for a girl in my office, I felt so much pressure off me -- such enromous social pressures, and I realised how even with the slightest of sexual attraction for women, men would rather base their entire life on it, rather than follow their natural instincts that take them towards men.
And, I had been feeling a lot bogged down lately fighting all the social pressures of heterosexuality, especially when they were being exerted by the one I was in love with, and whose opinion counted a lot to me. So much so that I had stopped walking upright, like a real man.
Just that small sexual attraction, which I did make a big deal about by telling my peers -- and I found myself walking tall again, with an extremely masculine gait. This transformation came so subconsciously. It is clear that men need Social manhood to feel men. Because, it is not so much about having it, but if it is denied to you it very difficult for you to be in touch with your own natural manhood.
And, I had been feeling a lot bogged down lately fighting all the social pressures of heterosexuality, especially when they were being exerted by the one I was in love with, and whose opinion counted a lot to me. So much so that I had stopped walking upright, like a real man.
Just that small sexual attraction, which I did make a big deal about by telling my peers -- and I found myself walking tall again, with an extremely masculine gait. This transformation came so subconsciously. It is clear that men need Social manhood to feel men. Because, it is not so much about having it, but if it is denied to you it very difficult for you to be in touch with your own natural manhood.
July 4, 2008
Going after girls, when there hearts are with men
All of my extremely intense relationships with other (straight) men have ended because of girls.
Inspite of the fact that all of my lovers in the past have been deeply involved with me, they insisted in seeing girls, which broke the relationship.
And, yet, I could sense that they really didn't need the girls, at least at that point in their lives. Since, they had more than what they could handle already in me. The relationships used to be really intense, mutual and demanding.
I could sense that they were doing it because of social pressures and because their ego was hurt by being in a relationship with another masculine gendered male, and also to avoid being labelled as 'gay' -- surprisingly, even when no one else knew about us, except the two of us.
I think, in most cases they did not really have girlfriends. They just invented them, in order to save their social manhood. And, even when they did, it was actually to show the world, and not because they really wanted them. But I was hurt nevertheless.
Sent to us through e-mail by a reader from Delhi.
Inspite of the fact that all of my lovers in the past have been deeply involved with me, they insisted in seeing girls, which broke the relationship.
And, yet, I could sense that they really didn't need the girls, at least at that point in their lives. Since, they had more than what they could handle already in me. The relationships used to be really intense, mutual and demanding.
I could sense that they were doing it because of social pressures and because their ego was hurt by being in a relationship with another masculine gendered male, and also to avoid being labelled as 'gay' -- surprisingly, even when no one else knew about us, except the two of us.
I think, in most cases they did not really have girlfriends. They just invented them, in order to save their social manhood. And, even when they did, it was actually to show the world, and not because they really wanted them. But I was hurt nevertheless.
Sent to us through e-mail by a reader from Delhi.
June 10, 2008
Tuesday, 10th June, 2008
I went out today with two of my young office colleagues, who are actually collegiates here on training during their summer vacations. We are working on a project on environment -- as our personal venture.
One of them keeps talking about girls all the time and keeps running after them. The other is shy, but more 'straight', masculine and handsome than the other. Both of them flirt with me as well, although I'm involved with the second one.
The second one commented that I am old enough to be married now and started pressing me to know when am I getting married. The first one immediately interrupted, asking me not to get married before 35. He said, he likes to run after girls and leave them after sometime, he doesn't like to get into relationships and hates it when girls start asking for it.
I told them, that boys and girls aren't made to live together. That, a famous Western actress once commented that "men and women are not made to live together. They should live next doors and meet sometimes to have sex, that's all".
Both of them so much liked the idea. It was like someone had told them for the first time that it was alright and manly for men not to want to be into relationships with women. In my days, it used to be so different. We were not expected to have girlfriends.
The first guy couldn't agree more. He excitedly said, "yes sir, yes sir, that's exactly what I think..."
Then he became a bit apprehensive, "but my parents have been staying together for so long...."
I told them, that's because they are made to stay together through marriage. It's kind of forced upon them.
The other guy became very excited by this time. He seemed so happy to explain to him that it is because our parents are made to get married by the society and they have no choice but to live together.
I told them something new today, that took the pressure to exaggerate their sexual need for girls a lot off their shoulders.
It's a pity I can't explain much to them, since I don't want to create problems at my workplace.
I went out today with two of my young office colleagues, who are actually collegiates here on training during their summer vacations. We are working on a project on environment -- as our personal venture.
One of them keeps talking about girls all the time and keeps running after them. The other is shy, but more 'straight', masculine and handsome than the other. Both of them flirt with me as well, although I'm involved with the second one.
The second one commented that I am old enough to be married now and started pressing me to know when am I getting married. The first one immediately interrupted, asking me not to get married before 35. He said, he likes to run after girls and leave them after sometime, he doesn't like to get into relationships and hates it when girls start asking for it.
I told them, that boys and girls aren't made to live together. That, a famous Western actress once commented that "men and women are not made to live together. They should live next doors and meet sometimes to have sex, that's all".
Both of them so much liked the idea. It was like someone had told them for the first time that it was alright and manly for men not to want to be into relationships with women. In my days, it used to be so different. We were not expected to have girlfriends.
The first guy couldn't agree more. He excitedly said, "yes sir, yes sir, that's exactly what I think..."
Then he became a bit apprehensive, "but my parents have been staying together for so long...."
I told them, that's because they are made to stay together through marriage. It's kind of forced upon them.
The other guy became very excited by this time. He seemed so happy to explain to him that it is because our parents are made to get married by the society and they have no choice but to live together.
I told them something new today, that took the pressure to exaggerate their sexual need for girls a lot off their shoulders.
It's a pity I can't explain much to them, since I don't want to create problems at my workplace.
January 9, 2008
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